🦋🦋 Helena 🦋🦋

Should I take a safe job or should I do one that will make me happier but is less safe?

There is a Japanese concept called Ikigai. Ikigai is the Japanese concept for your reason for being — the delicious intersection of what you love, what you’re good at, what the world needs, and what you can be paid for.

♥️ Mine? Sensuality. Sex. Connection. Conversation. Fun. Heart. ♥️

That’s what sets me on fire — and I believe in following that heat. Safe is comfortable, but aligned is electric. And we all deserve a life that is sensual, full of desire, curious, & cracking with life and soul.

Hotwife (ing): A practice among married couples in which the wife is open to seek sex partners, to the satisfaction of the husband.

Hello there;

It is nice to make your acquaintance. You have, one way or another, stumbled upon this website, and here you will find a ton of info about me and the services I offer.
I have a very busy life, and sex work is a big part of it. I also have a “civilian” job, a farm, a travel addiction, and many hobbies that keep me pleasantly busy. I am at the point in this industry that I mostly see my regular clients, with occasional new clients who have made a good first impression. The biggest predictor of human happiness is the quality of the human relationships we have. Whether we are single-serving friends or longtime lovers, I try to attract and find people who leave me feeling like my cup has been filled with their presence.

I am in my early forties & am married to a client I met 15 years ago when I dabbled in this industry. After that very brief dalliance in the adult industry, I stopped for nearly a decade to be a good wifey & work as an Executive Assistant to a CEO of a multi-national, publicly traded company. Eventually I threw in the towel on my Admin career to attend a Massage Therapy Diploma program & then a fitness instructor certification . I do not consider myself university-compatible but I am married to someone with multiple master’s degrees and can keep up just fine ;)

If you saw me on the street, you’d never know that I do “this”. I am an older version of the girl-next-door and look and act quite unassuming and sweetly. I am mostly a good girl…. but not when I come into the city to see you ;)

I choose this “job” for several reasons. Firstly, I love men. I love passionate encounters, and touching & being touched. I love both lovemaking and getting fucked senseless. Secondly, it beats sitting at a desk 8 hours a day working on budget slides and spreadsheets. Thirdly, I love being able to work less than a traditional 40-hour week and getting to spend more time on my farm and my passions. Lastly, I get a real thrill out of the naughtiness of this all. I have ALWAYS been willing to take the road less traveled and it has paid off. I’ve met cool people, traveled the world and had some damn good sex ;)

Every day I tell myself: “what you do is important because you are exchanging a day of your life for it”

Things I truly enjoy are fitness, off-grid living and homesteading (I own a legal farm, though it’s really my hobby farm) wellness retreats, getting massages, riding my quad, live theater & music, eating good food, traveling (35 countries and counting, and I lived abroad for seven years in my twenties), dark roast coffee, fishing, camping, reading, hearing peoples stories (nothing is too weird or out there for me), & getting regularly well f*cked ;) I am a cheerful, albeit thoughtful person that is extremely grounded. I value my physical, emotional, mental and spiritual health, and am very self-aware. These qualities make me a mature but fun-loving companion, able to offer a classy, tantalizing, & mutually pleasurable experience.

My preferences are at a bit of a confluence. On one hand, I love extended, slow sessions that dabble in energy play, teasing, and drawing out pleasure for as long as possible. And, on the other hand, I sometimes enjoy fast and furious carnal relations. Both are equally pleasurable and enjoyed.

I am a registered massage therapist (RMT), and I have done over 3000 hours in massage training, while graduating top of my class of ninety with a 95% average. My continuing education includes ten days in Hawaii studying Lomi Lomi (a sensual -but not sexual - massage style), Tantra (more of a philosophical study), Thai Massage in Boston, MA (which I am not currently offering), Cupping, Hot Stones, Reflexology & Thai Hot Bamboo massage.

I am a laid back and grounded person and I consider myself aggressively competent (lol). I spend more time doing things and living experiences than I do on my phone or in the digital world. In the past 24 months, I have lost 25kg and have embraced being extremely active & healthy. Over the past few years several people have commented on my emotional intelligence and I take this as the highest compliment. I am mature but fun and I think my adventurousness, imagination, intelligence make me far more interesting than my fit body and big bosom (but visit me for whatever floats your boat ;)

I don’t smoke and have never done drugs, and only drink very occasionally. I am a great conversationalist; I love hearing how people think and learning what makes them tick and am happy to spend time talking before or after any fun we have. I am not going to rush our visit; I do this because I love sensuality, exploration and excitement; I am not looking to take your money and move you along as quickly as possible; I thoroughly enjoy getting to know the people I meet doing this (and if I don’t enjoy your company, I will politely decline future meetings).

Stats

Height: 5’6 (people often think I am taller but I am think with long legs so I think it just seems that way!)
Weight: 134lbs (I describe myself as fit but soft; no washboard abs here)
Clothing Size: Small
Shoe Size: 7.5/8
Bust: 36DD enhanced / Waist: 28
Hair: Red
Eyes: Blue-Green bedroom eyes that reflect my Scandinavian roots.

Misc: I am smoke-free & drug-free. I might as well say alcohol-free as well since I drink so little (with the exception of a pint every few months).

I have, for the most part, a natural appearance. I enjoy wearing sexy (but not overly complicated) clothing & doing my hair and make-up, but I am not over the top. I will never have long, fake nails, because how would I do my farm work? In a nutshell, I am an older version of the girl-next-door; the casually sexy soccer mom of your dreams ;)

I had let myself get soft during COVID, which was fine, but in the past year I’ve discovered a passion for fitness and I have gotten back into shape. I’m feel sexy AF at the moment and am enjoying this new chapter.

Random Tidbits:

• I returned to sex work in December 2020. Just before then, I realized I was done settling for a life of comfortable mediocrity; I’d always wanted to live deep in the forest where I could see mountains. I also missed sex work. With the resolve to change, I sold my home in Edmonton and disappeared onto a beautiful, large rural property several hours out of the city. Now I spend my days dreaming up new projects—chicken coops, barns, fences, gardens—because while some women collect designer bags, I collect acreage upgrades (lol). I’m a total dog person, too; my pups basically run my home, and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

• I grew up on the Alberta prairies, but I always knew I was meant for more than staying put. I left my small town after high school for the mountains of Banff, traded a brief university dalliance for Irish pints, the Scottish moors and waters of the South Pacific, & never once looked back. I’ve lived, worked, and wandered through over 40 countries, spending most of my twenties overseas—falling in love with places, people, and the thrill of saying “yes” to life.

• I’m an introvert in the sexiest way—an INTJ who thrives primarily on one-on-one energy, touch, eye contact, and conversations that actually mean something. Crowded parties and noisy malls drain me, but a private room, warm lighting, a cup of coffee (or, occasionally, wine) and a man who wants to explore ideas and desire? Yes please! I love talking real estate, self-reliance and off-grid living , travel, movies, politics, and of course—sex, intimacy, and relationships.

Why do my clients see me?

• Dating culture & hook-up apps are demoralizing and energy-sucking

• They wants a safe, discrete encounter with someone of similar age and interests

• They like the company of a fun, sexy, emotionally intelligent woman

• They seek new & exciting sexual experiences with an open-minded woman

• They are not getting the sex they crave at home and do not want to engage in a full-blown affair.

• They want an uncomplicated, safe, and no-strings attached relationship with a friendly face. I have been seeing many of my clients for 5+ years.